oh, this is something that gets me angry too. We have a transwoman in our circle of lesbians and when she's not around, some call her by her masculine name (we don't have gendered pronouns in Hungarian, so that doesn't come at least), or say "once a guy always a guy" and I want to say "come on peoples, I have some tolerance for straight people who just don't get it because they've never had to think about such things but could get it if they put some thought in it, but we're lesbians, we don't have that excuse!"
when they asked me if there was someone i could love, i said her name, and there was shock and surprise and splutters of "how?" and "but you're a lesbian" and i said simply "i like women. and [her name] is a woman." and that's the end of the story for me. i don't say it will be as easy to be with a pre-op transwoman as it would be to be with a cisgendered woman, but really, in all aspects but the physical one, she's more of a woman than i am.
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Date: 2009-06-03 03:04 pm (UTC)when they asked me if there was someone i could love, i said her name, and there was shock and surprise and splutters of "how?" and "but you're a lesbian" and i said simply "i like women. and [her name] is a woman." and that's the end of the story for me. i don't say it will be as easy to be with a pre-op transwoman as it would be to be with a cisgendered woman, but really, in all aspects but the physical one, she's more of a woman than i am.